8 Red Signs in a Relationship

What relationship red flags exist? How are you going to recognize them? Above all, what steps should you take if your relationship has devolved into something unhealthy? Let’s talk about them below:

#1 Profile Differs from True Personality

Though “there’s a difference between presenting your best self and being inauthentic,” everyone wants to create a strong first impression. Claiming to be an “avid hiker” when you actually like to stroll on concrete routes, or claiming to be six feet tall when you’re actually five ten, may seem like innocuous lies. Perhaps this individual is simply a bit uncomfortable or afraid that you would find their unusual (or boring) reality objectionable. For any reason, it’s worth investigating since in-congruence between words and deeds and a lack of self-awareness (and distrust) might lead to issues in the future when it comes to resolving conflicts.

#2 A knack of Controlling You

In relationships, being overly controlling is a typical cause for concern. Individuals that attempt to dictate your actions, choices, or beliefs are more focused on their own desires than on what is in your best interests. A warning sign might be if a guy or female tries to dictate where you go or what you dress. A good relationship involves recognizing and making concessions for one another’s differences. Nobody is responsible for another person’s behavior.

#3 Too Much Complaining About Their “Ex”

Some relationships finish so terribly that we remain bitter about our past partners years later; however, if your current spouse constantly criticizes all of their “crazy” ex-lovers, it’s a solid indication that they might be the issue. When someone can’t think of one way or another that they contributed to their previous relationships and puts the blame elsewhere other than on themselves, it’s best to proceed with utmost care. Put another way, if you wind up dating them, you’ll probably end up one of those “crazy exes” as well. You can identify this on your very first communication if you’ve met them at an online date on Flirtbees Adult Chat.

#4 Have Some Trust Issues

A strong foundation of trust is necessary for every successful partnership. Having mistrust from partners, acquaintances, coworkers, or family members is a big indicator of an unhealthy relationship. We all have misgivings from time to time, of course. However, this shouldn’t deter us from having faith in the good intentions of the people in our life. Mutual trust is necessary for a relationship to be healthy.

#5 Shares ‘Too Much Information’ to Friends

Privacy is the utmost concern in a relationship. If you are certain that you’ve chosen someone as your true love, then it’s natural that you’ll be opening up about yourself and your life to them such as your dreams, fantasies, your guilts and most importantly, past! You should expect, and you should have the trust in them that those secrets will only remain among yourselves. BUT, you came to know that your darkest secrets got exposed to other people whom you don’t know much, but your partner considers them as his dearest ones. There is no reason to avoid it or let it go or even tolerate!

#6 Feels Joy to Put You Down

“I was joking!” does not make harsh remarks disappear. Jokes that constantly highlight your shortcomings, an overly sarcastic tone of voice, or cruel humor can all be signs of a non-consensual attempt to exert control over you in a relationship. Couples who “roast” each other in a consenting, playful manner and those whose “jokes” make you feel self-conscious are two very different things. When you inform your spouse that their actions are hurting your feelings, and they don’t change, that’s when it gets worrying. Then, this warning sign may become “non-negotiable” or a dealbreaker.

#7 Not A Good Listener, Only Expressive

We’re not talking about your partner always forgetting to pick up milk or asking to be reminded of the birthday of your cousin. This is about the significant facets of who you are that you share with others, such as your traditions, pastimes, and the individuals in your life that complete you. In what ways does this individual express interest in my hobbies and the things that I find meaningful? When you chat about your day, do they listen to you intently, or are they preoccupied with something else all the time? Do they still recall the small things you told them about your hiking love, the new coffee mix you’ve been gushing about, or your weekend vacation with friends? Keep in mind that you shouldn’t waste your time on someone who isn’t ready to change.

#8 Does Not Put Effort in Your Difficult Times

Your partner should be your comfort zone if, for example, you’re feeling down over some family conflict or really anxious before a big job presentation. That is not to mean, of course, that you should throw your issues at them and hope for miraculous solutions. But at the absolute least, you should be able to count on someone to look out for your best interests. They don’t have to make grandiose or costly gestures. You’ll feel so much better if they merely give you physical love, like a hug or kiss, or just reiterate their confidence in your skills and excellence! Feeling abandoned is a clear indication that your emotional needs aren’t being satisfied.